You want to respect their privacy BUT you are worried or scared for their well being. You want to help, BUT you are afraid you're going to cause even more hurt or problems. The first thing to keep in mind is that all of these feelings are valid and true. Change the word but to the word and, then share all of these feelings with the person to whom you are offering your support. Consider the following suggestion:. Approaching this way can have a positive effect in several important ways.
First of all, it involves you sharing your feelings, and this helps to keep the emotions from running the show. That can risk breaking down crying or getting unexpectedly angry. Once acknowledged, emotions are more likely to simply just "be there" rather than "taking over" making your words come out wrong or getting in the way of your first priority: communicating that you want to help.
Another advantage of beginning by sharing your feelings is that they are likely feeling quite a storm of emotions also. But they may not have named them as such. This leads to the most important advantage of expressing your emotions: it centers emotions as the topic of the conversation rather than an impersonal and distressing eating disorder.
Now that you have introduced the issue and set the stage by sharing the emotions that are being felt by everyone involved, what next? Well, they may suspect that you are going to bring up the disordered eating because they have most likely been aware of it and struggling with this. So, approaching with sensitivity and caring is critical.
Pay attention to whether they are becoming overwhelmed by the discussion. There are a few things to pay attention to with the above suggestion of what to say.
Notice, first of all, that the term eating disorder is not part of what is said. These concerns are actually the consequences of the real problem. This leads to the 2nd thing to highlight about the above suggestion. Approaching a person struggling with disordered eating is most effective when it becomes what it should be: approaching somebody that is really hurting inside and has grown quite lonely in that hurt. There can be no scripted guidelines on what to do from this point because the emotional experience that emerges will be unique to each collection of human beings involved.
Generally, you want to proceed if the person you are approaching indicates an open stance. Simply re-iterate, quietly--not in an angry or defensive tone, that you meant to be helpful and apologize if you upset them. Then, as you leave, offer them an open invitation to talk. If they have not become closed off and guarded or very defensive and angry, it may mean that you have approached them with enough sensitivity and respect that she or he feels safe to move forward…. Perhaps, it is a tremendous relief to finally share this difficulty with somebody.
They may become emotional…. In fact, you may, too. Here are tips for talking to your child about trouble with focus. You understand or want to understand. Focusing is a skill. Point out the behavior. Ask your child what might help. That tells your child there are ways to work on it. Tell us what interests you. See your recommendations.
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